How To Release Conflict

I'll never forget one of the first moments I felt stuck energy melt off of me. 

I was sitting across from my very first teacher and healer in my third energy healing session. The deep, stuck energy of longstanding interpersonal conflict was showing up for release.

After going on and on about how the conflict manifested, the energy healer asked me to consider something. What if the differences I had with this person had nothing to do with me? 

She then followed it up with a more potent question: what if everything I took issue with actually served a purpose in this person's life?

A wave of realization washed over me. My perception of right and wrong, good or bad, true or false was fueling the conflict. My brow chakra was running the relationship through the filter of what was true for me. I had not considered that what is true for me does not have to be true for others. Or that what I found to be true may not actually be "true" at all.

This feeling of letting go gave me permission to have my own truth and gave this person permission to have hers ... and I actually discovered that what is true for her may be what is best for her.

While her truth felt vile and destructive to my system, it offered safety and belonging to hers.

Who am I to deny anyone feelings of safety?
And is their embrace of my truth really necessary in order for me (and us) to have peace?

As my filter shifted, my body relaxed. The stuck energy of conflict and pain released. The trigger associated with this important person in my life dissolved.

I hope my story resonates with some of you and shifts the filter through which you see and connect with loved ones this holiday season. Try giving them permission to have their truth and maybe even concede that what it offers them — at least for now — could be what is best.

If this idea doesn't bring you the relief you need, perhaps it's time for some guided energy work! You need and deserve peace.